Heather Marshall on July 31st, 2008

My name is Heather Marshall, and I am:

…a striving wife

…29 years old

…married to my best friend

…a born-again Christian

…a former high school science teacher

…a cancer survivor

…the youngest of three kids

…a wife, a mom, a daughter, a sister, and a friend

…often insecure in my body, but always secure in my God

…an avid reader

…in youth ministry

…growing in Christ

My name is Heather Marshall, and I want:

…to be more like Christ

…to do God’s will

…to accept God’s will for my life

…to keep living in Ocean City

…to be a great wife and mom

…to be a good friend

…to have many, many happy years of marriage to my wonderful husband

Jason & Heather, November 2007

9 Responses to “About Heather”

  1. It is refreshing to find a young women so into our Savior. Thanks for the invite to your site. I am 40 this september, a daughter, sister, wife and mom. I have been a believer in Christ since I was 9. But it only began to really mean something to me about 6 years ago when I lost the most awesome man in my life, my dad. I guess you could say I was a stagnet christan comfortable to ride my dad’s coat tails. Since losing dad I have become the mantel wearer in our family a job I never thought I would have or if I did would I love it so much. Dont get me wrong I miss my dad somthin fierce but I now have the oppertunity to try to fill his foot steps. It is an huge honor and a very big job one that I am relishing if for nothing else I am growing in Christ. Had I know 20 years ago being obediant was such a blessing I probably would have done it more. So now I love finding others who love my Savior as much as I have grown to. So Wow thanks!!!

  2. Heather,
    You know it’s weird- I was reading this page about you, and it didn’t hit me before how much we have in common!: I love to read, and I am the youngest in my family too! I turned 26 years old this last January, in fact, so we are not far from age. So, I find this fascinating stuff! =) =) Where is Ocean City, by the way? I live in WA. state.

  3. Heather,
    I stumbled upon your website while looking for advice on how to be the “50’s wife”. Unfortunately I had to wade through alot of garbage before I made it to your site. However, it was worth the trip.
    Thank you for your dedicated and courageous point of view. I truly believe the world would be a better place if more people embraced the belief of being the wife that God wants them to be.

    My question for you is how do I support my husband as the disciplinary center of our family w/out becoming a doormat to my children. I have three kids (2 of my own & 1 of his)and I constantly struggle in this area. In addition, if I feel something needs to be dealt w/ and my husband is not “up to dealing with it” it frustrates him, makes him angry and makes the situation worse.

    What do I do, now and in the future, as a submissive wife and friend to my soulmate?

    Please reply, I respect your opinion.

    Thank you,

    Marne

  4. Greetings Heather!

    I know I’m a late bloomer in terms of knowing about your blog and website. I’m a newlywed and was experiencing some difficulty with communication with my husband that I PERCEIVED to be on my husband’s part. I said a prayer and strong images and thoughts of the book, \The Praying Wife\ came to mind. I remembered it from some time ago, but I couldn’t find my copy. While looking online for that book, I came across your website and read \Your Husband is Irrelevant - What?\ That was truly a blessing! Prayers surely are answered! I realized that my PERCEPTIONS were in fact incorrect and most of the problems I experienced were due to me looking at my husband with a microscope and failing to look toward God. Your article was a healing. I absolutely love this website and your advice! I’m actually of another faith, but what I love is that your advice is not just Christian in words alone, but also in spirit! You have such a beautiful spirit and have truly inspired me to serve my husband as a striving wife. Thanks again! Keep up the beautiful work!

  5. I would just like to point out that i do not agree with what is said in this blog. You say that women should strive to be good wives and i dont understand why it is your opinion that the sole responsibility of being a good spouse is placed on the wife. Should the husband not have any responsibility for keeping the relationship strong and healthy. I cannot begin to imagine how you can have a blog that reflects the negative sterotypes that women have been fighting against since the beginning of time. I also read your posting about the 1950’s goals for wives and i believe you have it wrong on both ends of the spectrum,you have posted something that basicly says that women who work need to drink alot to be able to function, you are promoting a negative sterotype for women who work you are saying that these women could not be women of faith because they need alcohol to be able to talk to their husband. Many women work and are women of faith. The guidelines for the 1950’s woman are very conservative and not something i will be striving for ever! A marriage is a partnership by saying that the wife has these standards to uphold and promote your sending women back in time to before we were grainted the right to be equals.

  6. Layne,

    I feel you have misunderstood much of what I’ve written about!

    In no way have I said or implied that women need alcohol to function - I don’t even drink alcohol myself! What I posted was an excerpt from someone ELSE’s site who took the “1950’s Good Wife Guide” and adapted it to what SHE thought it should say. If you read my reaction, I was truly appalled by her version.

    Also, I truly believe that God calls us to be “good wives” REGARDLESS of what our husbands are doing. We are going to answer to God one day for our own actions, not the actions of our husband. So yes, it IS our responsibility to strive to keep our marriage healthy and strong.

    I hope you will continue reading, with open eyes and ears, and see the heart with which all of this was written. It is not to stereotype women or send women back in time… but rather to show love and respect to our husbands, and serve God as we serve them.

    Keep on striving,

    Heather :)

  7. I just wanted to say, what a beautiful picture! I was feeling discouraged (and sleepless) until I started looking at your pages. I have been married 9 years and started out as a writer cum housewife but have been quite ill for the last 3 years meaning that my husband had to give up work to care for me. My sister who is self-employed has just got married and I was feeling very low when I noticed that on top of all her other work she’d published a blog celebrating her retro domestic idyllic wedding. It was a joy to attend, especially as we have not been close for a while and because she asked me to do one of the bible readings but I did feel afresh that she is reaching some kind of ‘ideal homes’ vision of the housewife that I with cerebral palsy and lots of other health problems will never reach. However your site reminded me that I have been attempting to live as a caring wife for a long time not because it is currently fashionable to be domesticated but because I genuinely care about some of these sadly unfashionable values.

    There is a very real need for me to find work outside the home (against the odds) if my disability benefit is stopped and I also feel guilty that my sister has achieved so much more in all the ways that my family upbringing values. However, you have centred me back on the path that I am trying to follow and reminded me that whatever may come God has nothing to do with worldly success.

    God bless you for enabling me to do a mental gear-shift that also kicks worldly jealousy out of doors!

    Regards

    Becky

  8. Hi,
    I stumbled across your site while looking for 5 Love language quiz for a friend. My ex husband and I used to teach this to young couples(how ironic). Anyway 5 Love Languages is a great book and I use it often to refer to my friends. First of all I would like to say WOW Heather it is refreshing to see ladies so young madly in love with Jesus and their husband. I wanted to say I am 46 1/2 years old and I find myself divorced after 27 years of marriage. Not a choice I made. You see my relationship with Jesus was growing by leaps and bounds and my husband and the time decided worldly things were better appealing.. I had always been the wife who loved and adored her husband. He was for the longest time “the best husband God ever put breath in”. The first thing that happened he left the church.. then he left me and our two children who were in their late teens. I and them were devastated. I screamed Lord how can this be? We loved each other. I fought for over a year and finally the Lord said let him go. I did and now I am on the mend. I didn’t understand why the Lord said Let him go but now I am beginning to. God hates divorce. So do I but it’s been 3 years now and I still have hurts from time to time but with God’s help I’m doing this because he is with me. He is with me! He is with Me! God promises never to leave or forsake us. I don’t know why I am writing all this but I suppose there is someone out there who might be going through the same thing I did. Keep the faith God is faithful and will see you through. The important thing is to keep praying for your spouse, ex spouse. My Lord calls my ex the Prodigal Son. He hasn’t came back to Jesus yet but he will.
    Sincerely, DeAnn

  9. what website is this asking for?

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