Heather Marshall on December 22nd, 2008

I just bought a book that I am SUPER excited to read…. it’s called “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman.  Understanding how you (and your husband) give and receive love is sooo super important in having a healthy & thriving marriage!

During premarital counseling, Jason and I had to figure out what each other’s love languages are.  Here are the five choices:

  • Quality Time
  • Physical Touch
  • Acts of Service
  • Words of Encouragement
  • Gift Giving

As I read the book, I’ll talk more about each of these “languages” of love, but for me… one of the highest ones on the list is “Quality Time.”  I love quality time spent with my husband, which is probably why we enjoy hanging out & even working together so much. :)

So… last night, when my husband suggested we stay up late, watch movies, drink hot chocolate, & snuggle in bed… well, I couldn’t resist! He was speaking my language! :)

Does your husband know your love language yet?  Do you know HIS?

It may surprise you to find out that how you are showing love to him might not be the way he receives it! For example, if his love language is words of encouragement, and you nag at him all the time… will he feel loved? Even if you are showering him with gifts, which might be how YOU show love?  Can you see how important this concept can be?

My suggestion: Read this book WITH your husband (even if you’ve already read it on your own), and discover your love languages together!

Don’t have the book? I’m sure your local library has a copy (mine does!), or you can click on the link below to purchase your own copy (which is better, because you can write in it… & refer back to it later on).

73156: The Five Love Languages The Five Love LanguagesBy Gary Chapman

We all know that the greatest commandment is to love. However, relatively few of us know how to express our love in the heart language of our family and friends. Fortunately, in The Five Love Languages Gary Chapman identifies the five primary love languages and teaches us how to use these languages to express our love. Although this edition of The Five Love Languages was written specifically for couples, the basic principles Chapman explores will apply to all relationships.

Have a blessed & merry Christmas….  God bless you!

Keep on Striving,

Heather :)

PS - Don’t forget to check me out every Monday & Thursday over at NOfearYEAR.com where my husband & I are doing a video devotional! It’s in the Pre-Season now, don’t miss these episodes!!

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6 Responses to “Does Your Husband Speak Your Language?”

  1. As we wind down Christmas (and I download pix!) I’m peeking at blogs and just love what you have going on here. My husband and I have given presentations to the marriage ministry at church on the 5 Love Languages and it transformed our marriage.

    I also love the NOfearYear. As someone in constant surrender who has a heart for marriage, I love it! I’ll be back to watch the pre season!

    Merry Christmas!

  2. My husband and I just finished reading this book, we loved it! As you said, it is very important to communicate, and especially important to communicate in each other’s language!

    I wrote a review of this book on my blog.


  3. I’m excited - we didn’t have good pre-marital counseling, and it’s a book I’ve been wanting to read anyway - I’m ready!

  4. Sounds like a great book!

  5. Julie & Ashley, I’d love to hear your continued comments on The Five Love Languages as I continue to blog through it… it’s my first time reading it, so I’m really excited!

    Lee, sorry about your pre-marital counseling, but let me tell you, this book will help you a LOT! I was first introduced to this book during my own pre-marital counseling, so I’ve always been aware of the Love Languages… but this will be my first time reading through it. Glad you’re joining me!

    The Muse, so far it IS a great book!

    Make sure you check out my next post… it’s starting the book conversation off with chapter 1! :)

  6. Our 2nd anniversary is coming up so I’ve just ordered this book on Amazon - one for me and one as an anniversary gift for Justin! Sshh, don’t tell him! We really need it as most of our issues come from each of us not understanding the other’s “love language” and the frustrations that arise from that!! I’m praying it helps and that my husband will be supportive enough to read it!! :)


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