Heather Marshall on July 2nd, 2008

My name is Heather Marshall, and I am daily striving to be a Godly wife.

Jason and I were married on June 10, 2006, but our story doesn’t begin there. Someday, maybe I’ll write a book about it, but for now here is the condensed story:

I met Jason during my Junior year of college, in late 2001. I began attending the same church as him, and in 2003, teaching at the same school he was teaching at. Our classrooms were right next to each other, so we often ended up talking. In early 2004, I started helping with the youth group, where he was the head leader.

Before long, we started doing most things together. We served in ministry together, we hung out together, we’d talk on the phone together……. and right before he left for a 3-month mission-building trip (with YWAM) to Hawaii, I realized that I was absolutely, head over heels in love with Jason Stanley Marshall.

Unfortunately, Jason was more than content being “just friends,” so I decided to keep my feelings a secret and just pray like crazy for him to fall for me. When he came back from Hawaii right before Christmas in 2004, I was hoping he would have realized how much he missed me and how much he loved me, but…. things went on like usual.

The year 2005 came and went. Lots of great things happened that year - our youth group grew, I went on 2 missions trips that summer, and Jason and I got even closer in our friendship - but still no professions of his love. Through a mutual, meddling friend, he did find out MY feelings for him, but I managed to tell him that our friendship was more important than anything else, and I didn’t want things to get awkward. He teased me for about a day or two, then things went back to normal.

That year I leaned on God so hard. I prayed, I cried… But God did something very special for me. He confirmed to me that Jason would be the one that I would marry… I just needed to be patient and wait on God’s timing. So wait I did….

In January of 2006, Jason was going through some challenging times. Something had to give - either his full-time youth pastor position (which paid literally $100 a week), or his full-time Math and Bible teaching position (which paid the bills). He didn’t know what to do, and decided to fast to find the answer. He had never fasted before, and neither had I, so I agreed to do it with him.

We decided to fast from a Thursday after school to Sunday after church. Friday night he called me because he was hungry. Saturday afternoon he called again, to see what God was doing during our fast. We talked for a bit, then asked the question I thought I would never hear come out of his mouth: “Is this a good time to talk about US?

I nearly fell off my bed. I started pacing in my little cubicle of a bedroom as we talked… and basically, what was said was that he knew we’d be perfect together, but that he didn’t know why he just didn’t have any feelings for me.

My response? “Well, if you ever DO get feelings for me, you might as well just propose, because dating wouldn’t look any different from the way we are right now.

Talk about forward!

I also told him to perhaps try to think of me “in that way” because after all, it had been 7 years since he’d had a girlfriend… he was used to NOT thinking of women “in that way.”

So it took a lot of effort on my part to say all that (and a LOT of prayer) but apparently it worked, because about 3 1/2 weeks later, he proposed.


That’s right. After our fast, we went back to being friends as normal…. but somewhere in there he fell in love, and shocked me one Sunday morning by proposing to me!

It was the day before my 25th birthday, and he was in charge of the morning announcements. He called me down to the front to wish me a happy birthday in front of everyone…………. and then proceeded to say the words that are ingrained into my memory forever:

“Heather, I just want to thank you for being very patient with me in your feelings for me… I love you, and I would like to know if you will marry me?

The whole church was screaming and on their feet before I could even say yes! But say yes I did (I was in shock… but the tears came about 20 minutes later)! :)

So, 3 1/2 months later, we were married… and our first kiss was on our wedding day! It was such a romantic and God-filled moment…. and definitely worth the looooooong wait!

You can watch the proposal right here if you’d like…. we got it all on video!!

30 Responses to “Love Story”

  1. Jeannie Juillette
    July 31st, 2008 at 7:43 pm

    AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW… happy tears here, that was sooooo Cool.. Congratulations

  2. Oh my gracious, that is a BEAUTIFUL story. Seriously, I got chills. How awesome to see how God moved….and I so wish my and Matt’s first kiss was on our wedding day.

    And you got married almost a year to the day that we did! :) We were married on June 11, 2005. How neat!

  3. Wow!!! I dont even know what to say or write. I can hardly see through the tears. May God bless your union with all the righteousness of heaven and your minestry with all the blessings He has!!!

  4. Heather –

    Oh my goodness! How totally wonderful to have that moment captured forever!! Thanks for sharing with me and the whole world.

    I sat in the row in front of you at the Illuminate Conference—right next to Monikah. I wish I had seen yours and Jason’s websites before the conference. However, I am so grateful I got to see them now. What a treat!

    Charlotte

  5. What I romantic story and a great video! Thanks for sharing.

  6. Hey guys, that was a awesome proposal!
    So glad that we met and have become friends!
    Miss you already and many blessings.

  7. Dear Heather,

    That was a fabulous story! Would you mind if we linked to it on our website? I think it’d be a real encouragement to the girls who visit us. Please just drop me a line if this is a problem.

    Also, I’d love to mention your story in an article I’m writing about God-centered relationships. Is this okay? Feel free to contact me if you want more details. Thanks!

  8. Heather,
    Your story gave me the “spooks” in a good way. It was strange to read your story, after what seems to be a similar waiting period for myself. Your story reminds me of the way that mine is being written out…can’t say more than that, but your story gave me hope. Thank you for sharing. We’ll see what God does in mine.

  9. Heather,
    If you wouldn’t mind, I’d love to find out where you obtained your dress, and the flowers at your wedding. I’ve seen your pictures on this site, and they’re beautiful.

  10. Heather,
    Your story is so heartwarming :-) May God be ever present in the lives of you and Jason. I just am curious to find out how God confirmed to you (before the proposal) that Jason would be your husband.

  11. This is such a touching and encouraging story. I grew up with my best friend (I’ve known him since we were 5 years old and we’re 21 now) and we’ve just always been close. Last month, during winter break as we spend lots of time together, I realized that I’ve always been in love with him. I just never admitted it to myself or anyone else who made comments about us. Anyway, I got up the nerve to tell him how I felt (through e-mail) a few weeks ago but nothing has changed between us.

    We’re still as close as ever, if not closer, but he just hasn’t mentioned anything. And I feel like I’m going through a similar waiting period that you did. Anyway, it’s encouraging to read about how you also fell in love with your best friend and were so patient with him and God in waiting. I also want to save my first kiss for marriage so it’s just very encouraging to see your story. And the video is great :-)

    Thanks so much!

  12. Heather & Jason congratulations. Brought tears to my eyes; what a wonderful story, and a true testament to the power of Gods Love for us and the proof of that if we wait and Listen to God, in HIS time all things will come. Thank you for sharing, I am sure you both have been and continue to be an inspiration to many young people out there. May God continue to bless you both.

  13. Katlyn Giberson
    May 3rd, 2009 at 3:52 pm

    This is amazing! How awesome is God!!! Al in his timing. God is ALL ABOUT TIMING. Loved this girl! Gives me faith that God will bring a husband for me in his timing!!! LOVE our blog!

  14. i am so touched!!! indeed TRUE LOVE WAITS… When God writes your love story ;-)

  15. I am very happy to see this…I feel we need to be friends…
    My husband is a lovely man and I thank God as well to have met him…our story is a little bit different to yours but I would love to talk…
    Stay blessed

  16. Awwww! That is so sweet! My dad proposed to my mom in a similar way…right in front of everybody in the church service!

  17. Thanks for your web site/ blog. We all need encouragement and support in becoming all God intends for us to become.

  18. I am 18. I have Lupus. I believe I am possibly falling in love with my best friend. I need to talk to someone .. if you have time and are willing, please.. you have my email. I believe God led me onto this website because I was truly depressed and upset, and wasn’t even looking for anything that concerned the content on this site and yet here I am.

    God bless you and thank you for sharing your story. Truly beautiful.

  19. Your story is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing it with the world. It is really encouraging to me, as I’m waiting for my prince and my family really and truly believes in courtship and not dating. God bless you both! :)

    Emily N.

  20. I was wondering and I am really really really curious.
    What was the confirmation that you received that made you want to wait for him?
    Like specifically.

    By the way, I love this story and read it over and over because it’s so hearfelt and genuine and totally a God thing.

    which is the place to be, right at the center of God’s will.
    God bless.

  21. Thanks for all your comments! I’m TRULY blessed with such an amazing husband! :)

    Fatima, to answer your question…

    I had spent a LOT of time in prayer over my feeling for Jason, and I was getting tired of “wasting” my time if it wasn’t going to be for marriage. So, I did what I’ve done in relationships past: I prayed, “God, if he is not the one for me, PLEASE take these feelings away!” When I’d prayed that in the past, the feelings I’d had in other relationships went away almost immediately. This time, they stayed. I kept praying, & my feelings for Jason just got stronger.

    Finally, I changed my prayer. I prayed, “Alright God, these feelings are too distracting! If Jason IS the one for me, but now is not the TIME, please take these feelings away!” & suddenly, I just felt friendship again. I was like, “WHAT?! WOW.. Okay, thanks God!” :) So I knew from then on that I would someday be marrying Jason, but the timing was in God’s hands. Made waiting SO much easier! :)

    It’s certainly not a foolproof method that anyone can copy, but I know that that’s how God spoke to ME during that time!

    Keep on Striving,

    Heather :)

  22. I’m so glad I read your love story. It must have been very hard to live through, but now you have such a neat story to tell and a testimony of God’s faithfulness.

  23. Aww, i love your story and the video. Thanks for sharing this wonderful story. god bless your family

  24. I stumbled upon this website.. and I just thought it was neat because my name is also Heather and my fiance’s name is also Jason! :)

  25. I understand the way that you felt because i am going through the same thing at this point where God has shown me who my husband is but it seems like he is just content with being friends. I do prayer and talk to God while I hide my feeling.

    I just stumbled on to this site and bless God for you. God knows how to reach us at where we at. I feel so different now. Thoughts of doubt and fear started to cloud my mind but God is in control.

    He to has not been in a relationship for a while so it makes it harder. Thanks for sharing i can now hold on. Each time i think to give up God takes me some where else and shows me this is his work.
    But i dont mind waiting on God.. He will see us through.

  26. What a beautiful story and congratulations. You are a testament to the power of prayer. I am also one of those blessed and lucky one’s that found a Godly husband. Stay Happy!

  27. That is such an INCREDIBLE story!!! Truly of God!!!

  28. I have so many goosebumps my skin hurts! What a wonderful, wonderful story!

  29. this story is realy heart touching……may God keep both of you happy always as u r now and for ever…

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