My name is Heather Marshall, and I am daily striving to be a Godly wife.
Jason and I were married on June 10, 2006, but our story doesn’t begin there. Someday, maybe I’ll write a book about it, but for now here is the condensed story:
I met Jason during my Junior year of college, in late 2001. I began attending the same church as him, and in 2003, teaching at the same school he was teaching at. Our classrooms were right next to each other, so we often ended up talking. In early 2004, I started helping with the youth group, where he was the head leader.
Before long, we started doing most things together. We served in ministry together, we hung out together, we’d talk on the phone together……. and right before he left for a 3-month mission-building trip (with YWAM) to Hawaii, I realized that I was absolutely, head over heels in love with Jason Stanley Marshall.
Unfortunately, Jason was more than content being “just friends,” so I decided to keep my feelings a secret and just pray like crazy for him to fall for me. When he came back from Hawaii right before Christmas in 2004, I was hoping he would have realized how much he missed me and how much he loved me, but…. things went on like usual.
The year 2005 came and went. Lots of great things happened that year - our youth group grew, I went on 2 missions trips that summer, and Jason and I got even closer in our friendship - but still no professions of his love. Through a mutual, meddling friend, he did find out MY feelings for him, but I managed to tell him that our friendship was more important than anything else, and I didn’t want things to get awkward. He teased me for about a day or two, then things went back to normal.
That year I leaned on God so hard. I prayed, I cried… But God did something very special for me. He confirmed to me that Jason would be the one that I would marry… I just needed to be patient and wait on God’s timing. So wait I did….
In January of 2006, Jason was going through some challenging times. Something had to give - either his full-time youth pastor position (which paid literally $100 a week), or his full-time Math and Bible teaching position (which paid the bills). He didn’t know what to do, and decided to fast to find the answer. He had never fasted before, and neither had I, so I agreed to do it with him.
We decided to fast from a Thursday after school to Sunday after church. Friday night he called me because he was hungry. Saturday afternoon he called again, to see what God was doing during our fast. We talked for a bit, then asked the question I thought I would never hear come out of his mouth: “Is this a good time to talk about US?”
I nearly fell off my bed. I started pacing in my little cubicle of a bedroom as we talked… and basically, what was said was that he knew we’d be perfect together, but that he didn’t know why he just didn’t have any feelings for me.
My response? “Well, if you ever DO get feelings for me, you might as well just propose, because dating wouldn’t look any different from the way we are right now.”
Talk about forward!
I also told him to perhaps try to think of me “in that way” because after all, it had been 7 years since he’d had a girlfriend… he was used to NOT thinking of women “in that way.”
So it took a lot of effort on my part to say all that (and a LOT of prayer) but apparently it worked, because about 3 1/2 weeks later, he proposed.
That’s right. After our fast, we went back to being friends as normal…. but somewhere in there he fell in love, and shocked me one Sunday morning by proposing to me!
It was the day before my 25th birthday, and he was in charge of the morning announcements. He called me down to the front to wish me a happy birthday in front of everyone…………. and then proceeded to say the words that are ingrained into my memory forever:
“Heather, I just want to thank you for being very patient with me in your feelings for me… I love you, and I would like to know if you will marry me?”
The whole church was screaming and on their feet before I could even say yes! But say yes I did (I was in shock… but the tears came about 20 minutes later)!
So, 3 1/2 months later, we were married… and our first kiss was on our wedding day! It was such a romantic and God-filled moment…. and definitely worth the looooooong wait!
You can watch the proposal right here if you’d like…. we got it all on video!!