I’m sitting here in my new home while my precious baby boy is napping, surrounded by piles of folded laundry, unsorted mail, and half unpacked boxes… writing a blog post. Does this seem like I’ve got my priorities wrong? On the contrary, my friend! I’m making time for ME!
Last month when I sat down to write my latest blog post (the first in sooo long), I realized that I had been missing out on something all this time! It felt sooo good to get back into writing, answering emails, reading blog comments… I’d been missing out on ME time!
So much of what we do as wives and mothers centers around others. We cook, clean, care for, and spend time with our husbands & children. We run errands, go to church, and attend family BBQ’s. Even when we snuggle up with our hubbies to watch a movie, it’s with another person.
What many of us miss out on is time spent doing something for yourself. Perhaps it’s reading a good book. Maybe it’s taking a class. It could be a hobby, like crocheting or scrapbooking. Perhaps it’s even exercise! For me, well… I’d like to do ALL of those things but… blogging is definitely on the list for me!
I know what you may be thinking… in fact, I’m willing to bet that at least one of these objections are yours:
- “I don’t have TIME to have me-time - I’m too busy!”
- “I feel selfish leaving my husband with the kids so I can do what I want.”
- “There’s too much work to get done around here for me to sit around doing nothing.”
Well, about a year and a half ago, I wrote about this very topic… & I’d like to repost part of it for you to read. It’s a great reminder of WHY this is so important!
When’s the last time you allowed yourself a break from housework, the kids, or (gasp) even your husband? Are you feeling worn out, fatigued, easily irritated? You may need to allow yourself some time for self-care!!
Not sure what to do? Here are some ideas:
- Join a ladies’ Bible study.
- Schedule a weekly or monthly girls’ night with other women from your church, Bible study, etc.
- Get a manicure, pedicure, or massage.
- Go out for coffee or shopping (either on your own or with friends, whichever your preference is).
- Join a gym, especially one that offers aerobics classes!
Short on time, money, or even friends to go somewhere with? Here are a few other ideas…
- Go for a walk.
- Curl up on the couch with a cup of tea and a good book (either after the kids are in bed, or send them outside with Dad!)
- Pick up the phone & call your mom, sister, or best girlfriend to chat.
Nervous about leaving your hubby alone with the kids? (Or even by himself?) No worries, he’ll be fine! Growing up, I loved the nights my dad was in charge - nobody had to eat their veggies!! Let your husband make his own fun memories with your kids, or if there are no kids involved, give him a night to be by himself (I’m sure he’ll find a night of video games or competition-free TV watching pleasurable).
Oh, & if he complains…. just let him know that you’ll miss him…. but it’ll be worth it for BOTH of you to have that time apart!
Admittedly, self-care was a hard concept for me to grasp during the first year of our marriage… I felt like Jason and I should do everything together… but then I found myself missing out on my female friendships! Also, I was often irritable and burnt out… looking back, I think I can attribute a lot of that to a lack of self-care.
It took a lot for me to realize that being a striving wife does NOT mean doing everything for my husband and nothing for me. And, it took a lot to realize that doing something for me does NOT mean I’m selfish!
So, do you agree that it’s important? What do YOU do for “Me-Time”? Or, what would you WANT to do? I’d love to hear your thoughts, comments, & ideas!
Keep on Striving,