Heather Marshall on August 21st, 2008

“Pride is a slippery sin,” Leslie Vernick writes in her book, How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong. Often, we don’t even realize it’s there, and by the time we head down that slope, we don’t even know how to get back out.

How does that happen? Well, Satan is a deceiver. Paul says that, “Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light.” (2 Corinthians 11:14). Satan wants us to think that we’re okay, that it’s others who have the problem with pride. Psalm 36:2 describes someone who is full of pride, saying “For in his own eyes he flatters himself too much to detect or hate his sin.

That is scary!! The fact that we no longer detect our sin?! We no longer hate our sin?! We need to be on the alert that we do not end up falling victim to this slippery sin!!

Oswald Chambers, in My Utmost for His Highest, says that pride ascribes God-like attributes to ourselves. We make ourselves God. When that happens, Leslie Vernick says, “we are always right, always first, always in control, and always the most important. We want everything to revolve around us and to be for us.

Wow. Do we want that for our marriage? Each spouse looking out for numero uno?

In marriage, both partners should be giving 100%. Pride takes that away. If you find yourself fighting a lot or being easily angered, check your pride level. It may be higher than you think, especially if Satan had any say in the matter.

Beth Moore wrote a poem that Leslie quotes in her book also. It was taken from Beth Moore’s book, “Praying God’s Word: Breaking Free from Spiritual Strongholds.”

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My name is Pride. I am a cheater.
I cheat you of your God-given destiny…because
you demand your own way.
I cheat you of contentment…because you
deserve better than this.”

I cheat you of knowledge…because you already
know it all.

I cheat you of healing…because you’re
too full of me to forgive.

I cheat you of holiness…because you refuse to
admit when you’re wrong.

I cheat you of vision…because you’d rather look
in the mirror than out a window.

I cheat you of a genuine friendship…because
nobody’s going to know the real you.

I cheat you of love…because real romance
demands sacrifice.

I cheat you of greatness in heaven…because you
refuse to wash another’s feet on earth.

I cheat you of God’s glory…because I convince
you to seek your own.

My name is Pride. I am a cheater.

You like me because you think I’m always looking out for you.
I’m looking to make a fool of you.
God has so much for you, I admit, but don’t worry…
If you stick with me
You’ll never know.

In his pride the wicked does not seek him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God.

Psalm 10:4

Think of all Pride cheats you of… God wants so much more for you, for your marriage, for your ministry! Allow God to change you, work in you, and work through you. You can remove that dandelion in your soul, you can get off that slippery slope. The Holy Spirit will empower you - all you have to do is let Him!

Please, feel free to share your stories, experiences, thoughts, or prayer requests in a comment below.

Keep on Striving,


Want to read more? Check out what the book of Proverbs has to say on Pride… (Click here for more verses on Pride)

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5 Responses to “The Deception of Pride”

  1. Slippery indeed! The other side of the coin is shame, but they both have the same roots.
    Great post Heather!

  2. Very true. I think this is one reason we need community, so that we can keep ourselves and others accountable. Thank you!

  3. My name is Gerard and I’ve been married to an extremely prideful woman for about 2 years now. We have issues and I’m definitely to blame for a lot of our fallouts. The problem is she has this holier, better than, different then, more humble than, attitude. She doesnt have any friends and her own family realizes that the world revolves around her and her ideas. She manipulates issues we have to anger me and frustrate me and when I try to go out for air she uses scripture to tell me how wrong I am. She is extremely cold and private and till this day there are things that I dont know about her. She blames everything that goes wrong in our relationship on me and she never, ever apologizes for anything. She has said before that she takes pride in always being right, and thats scary to hear. She makes good money and uses that fact as a reason for not having to tolerate with our issues. Im about ready for a divorce and I’ve prayed and changed and prayed and cried but this woman will not change. What do I do?


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