Love is so important! And I’m not talking about the mushy-gushy, lovey-dovey, stars in your eyes romantic love. I’m talking about REAL love, the kind of love that endures through hardship and is strengthened over time. The kind of love that takes care of the terminally ill loved one, forgives the spouse who has hurt them, that embodies the Biblical definition of love: patient, kind, unselfish, and sacrificial.
Paul says that you can have all sorts of gifts and talents… but if they are practiced without love, they are worth NOTHING. So, what stands in the way of this type of love?
I’ve often heard that the opposite of love is hate, but actually it’s… PRIDE.
Think about 1 Corinthians 13 and its definition of Love…
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NLT)
What are prideful people like? Impatient, selfish, boastful, and rude - those are the obvious signs of pride. Prideful people dislike being proven wrong, would rather someone else take the blame/fall for things, seek attention, and are often stubborn. Doesn’t sound very loving, does it?
Think you’re not prideful? So did I at one time (I think I took pride in the fact that I was so humble! haha) …… but the more I read about pride, the more I realized I fit the bill.
Here is part of a chart that my husband passed along to me a while back… it compares proud people to humble people (and here’s where I realized my problem with pride):
If you need to, go back and read through these characteristics… open your heart, and allow God to speak to you. If you feel uncomfortable reading the description of the proud, that could be the Holy Spirit convicting you of your pride.
Pride is ugly, and its roots go deep. I heard a sermon by David Rhodes where this word picture was used: “Pride is the dandelion of the soul. Its roots go deep, only a little needs to be left behind and it can sprout again. Its seeds lodge in the tiniest encouraging cracks. It flourishes in good soil. The danger of pride is that it feeds on goodness.”
I planned on talking more about pride and the danger it brings to our marriage, but I feel as if God is prompting me to stop here for today. (Stay tuned for more posts on pride over the next several days). Search your heart, and ask God to show you any areas of your life where the sin of Pride has taken root. (I am doing the same!)
Search me, O God, and know my heart;
Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if there is any wicked way in me,
And lead me in the way everlasting.
Psalm 139:23-24 (NKJV)
Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
1 John 1:9
Let’s keep on striving to be wives after God’s own heart! As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts, or if you have any prayer needs (especially in this area), feel free to share them in the comments below. I would love to strive with you in prayer!