Heather Marshall on April 19th, 2009

Are you up for a good challenge? Depending on your personality, or even what’s going on in your life at the time, this challenge may or may not be EXTREMELY difficult!

Your challenge is, for a WHOLE WEEK, to not complain.  No complaining about your husband, your kids, your co-workers, your boss. No complaining about your messy house, dirty dishes, never-ending laundry, or shoes that are left in the middle of the floor for you to trip on.  No complaining about your job, workload, lack of extra money, or need for a vacation. No complaining about headaches, vomiting children, tiredness, or your desire for sanity in the midst of chaos.

For one whole week, no complaining allowed! At all! No excuses!

So, what’s the catch?  Why are we doing this?  Well, I got inspired by Sheila Gregoire’s blog post & challenge to other women to participate in the Complaint Free Week.

I began to think about how negative I can be (and I know I’m not alone, right ladies?). It’s so easy to complain about just about everything! I complain when I’m hungry (which is ALL the time now that I’m trying to eat for two!), when I have a headache (it’s allergy season!), when I’m tired (again, ALL the time thanks to baby), when I have to do the laundry, or when I have to do anything I don’t feel like doing at the moment.

I’m sure my husband would rather hear me say pleasant and uplifting things rather than negative and pessimistic things all the time.  For the sake of our husbands, to be a better example to our children and co-workers… let’s give up complaining this week!

Wondering what to do instead? Well… let’s look at what the Bible says we should do! Philippians 4:8 says…

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Let’s take it a step further, and not just THINK about such things… but let’s SPEAK such things!

Another word of wisdom from the Bible can be found in Ephesians 4:29…

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

Are you ready to take the challenge? Are you ready to speak only words that will build up & edify rather than words of complaint?   Leave a comment & let me know that I won’t be alone this week! :)

Keep on Striving,

Heather :)

PS - I know that this challenge can (& will) be difficult… but it will be so worth it! Meditate on & memorize these verses so that when you feel the urge to complain, you have Scripture to recite instead. :)

PPS - This challenge is running from Sunday April 19 to next Saturday April 25, according to Sheila’s blog. HOWEVER… if you don’t read this until midweek or next week or next year, don’t feel like you’ve “missed it.” Just start NOW, & for 1 week commit to not complaining.

Make sure to let me know how you did!!!!!!!!!!! :)

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19 Responses to “Your Challenge: A Complaint-Free Week!”

  1. This is a great idea Heather & quite convicting too! My first thought when reading this was, wow! I complain a lot & I think I might totally fail this challenge but I’m still going to take it! This couldn’t have come at a better time! I will let you know how I’m doing & I’ll be praying for you as well! This won’t be easy, especially if someone around me starts complaining, I need to be on guard not to jump on that negative bandwagon! Lord make us aware of our speech & give us extra strength this week. I pray this week turns into a permanent change!

  2. Hey Heather you will not be alone. I will absolutely do this no complaining challenge with you.

  3. wow! what a great idea! i will definitely be joining you! :) thanks for the heads up!

  4. This is a great idea and I am in! I am actually in the process of doing a 30 Day Encouragement Challenge for Wives (From Revive Our Hearts) and this will help me finish the rest of the month strong!!!

    Thanks for passing this information on!


  5. This is a challenge! We are in the process of moving and have rented a home temporarily. The Lord had provided a furnished home and we would’nt have to move stuff in, move stuff out and move stuff in again to whereever it is we end up. Complaining is what I have done all day…there’s no closets, the furniture is dated, where are the electrical outlets..there is no shower upstairs….(my poor husband)…so I’ll take this challeng and if nothing else happens, I know that awareness has certainly been raised. When I first got saved I was appaled at the attitude of the Israelites in the wilderness “after all God did for them, they do nothing but complain.” But I have the same bent towards complaining rather than being thankful…that is a confession.

  6. Okay Heather, I’ll try it. But knowing me (and you do because I’m your Mom and you inherited all your complaining genes from me) I may fail this test in the first five minutes of getting up. I’m planning on hanging a sign in front of my eyes that says “No complaining!” Otherwise I’ll forget it with the first telephone call. May we all have God’s grace and mercy for this week. I need post-it notes all around the house or I will forget. And I complain so well. I’ve made an art of it. HELP!!!!

  7. I am with you! I so needed this. Thanks for the challenge! I know we will emerge from this week more like Jesus. God Bless!

    Donna aka JesusLovinMama

    Congrats on the fabulous news btw! I am a teensy bit jealous. I can’t wait to be pregnant again!

  8. In the midst of our family’s newest challenge from God (He really likes to streeeeetch us in ways that seem like He’s asking too much sometimes)this is going to be difficult, but I’m putting my best foot forward and joining you in this challenge. :)

  9. Wow!! So awesome to not be alone!

    I hope your first day is going well… I’ve found myself complaining without even realizing it til after the fact! I know how hard this week is going to be… but I thank you for joining me… your husbands & families WILL notice the difference!

    One thing I KNOW that I will be doing this week is praying for all of YOU! Even aside from your comments, I’ve received emails & Facebook messages stating how much of a difficulty this challenge is going to be!

    I am praying for you…. feel free to email me or FB message me with more specific prayer requests (heather @ thestrivingwife.com is my email - take out the spaces of course!)

    I love you all… keep on striving!!

  10. Okay, I’m not even remotely excited about this challenge, but I am going to give it a try. Not being excited obviously means that I must be a BIG complainer. (Funny how I was just praying that I would live a life that is Spirit led, rather than emotion led.)
    I’m all in and if anyone thinks to pray for me, I would be greatful!!

  11. I just got you e-mail today, and I’m joining in. I cried when I read your post. This is very timely for me. I’ve been complaining up a storm lately about a variety of truly minor issues. We are getting ready to go on an overseas trip this week, so this makes this challenge even more of a challange for me! I’ll meditate on those verses and rejoice over God’s goodness to discipline me right when I really need it!

  12. Ahhh yes…complaint free….I am starting this challenge. Complaints have a way of finding you unawares….so to be diligen will be through the grace of God…our Lord Jesus Christ. Found myself slipping into the habit…..even when joking around about something……so breaking the complaint factor…….is going to be a challenge…but one that will prove beneficial for the heart, mind, body and soul.

  13. i’m with you … i will do this challenge with you . God Bless you .

  14. Hey Heather - Love your blog and your writing. Please contact me offline - I would love to talk to you more about The Husband Project and doing a giveaway with your readers.

  15. Hey H! I’m definitely not a “blogger” but it’s obvious that you’re really into this site- good job!

    I did read this one and had a thought for you. How would you define “complaining”? (Webster calls it 1-to express grief, pain, or discontent 2-to make a formal accusation or charge). It’s one thing when it’s regarding taking all the blankets or not getting projects done around the house, but perhaps it reaches a different level when it’s a “real” issue (ie pornography/prescription drug addictions). I say this not to be argumentative, but because I have a very close friend who’s dealing with exactly that and to keep from being a “complaining wife” hasn’t been firm on her concerns other than mentioning them and backing off and turning to compliments when it upset him. She’s also kept from informing any others about it to keep from dishonoring him, so nobody really knew of these struggles… for almost 2yrs now (they have recently come to light and it was quite shocking). This has severely negatively impacted several different areas in both of their lives and it’s literally tearing their marriage apart.

    Her heart and attitude seem to have been in the right place regarding concern for her husband’s feelings and reputation, but there has to be a line. Backing down on the issue and only complimenting him has brought about a mindset that his view on these addictions isn’t “that bad” and “it’s just something she’ll have to deal with” along with denial- especially when it’s been going on for so long. It’s had a downward spiral affect and now that she’s speaking up on it, it’s not being taken very seriously since she’s backed down so much before.

    Normally if I was reading this, I would probably say “‘Well, there’s always 2 sides to the story’ or ‘there are probably many more issues,’”… etc; but I am very close to this particular situation. In a very real way, it is a one-sided issue- something that’s been confirmed with pastoral counseling.

    I understand this scenario deviates from the norm, but in this particular situation, I believe things could’ve resulted much differently (and I think it happens a lot more than we know- perhaps even for some of your readers which is why I posted here and not through a message on fb). I agree we need to be careful of our words, but perhaps there are times when being a “helpmate” to our husband may require us to speak up.


    (P.S.- Thanks for listening- it’s probably a good thing that I don’t “blog”- if I made them all this long, I’d never have time for anything else :P )

  16. I was just led to your challenge this morning, but I’m going to give it a shot. So far so good but it’s only been half a Sunday. LOL


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